Tuesday, March 12, 2013

deal breakers

I love Kid History! If you listen to these two little ones, you will soon find that the one little girl has a few deal breakers for the man she will marry some day. 
Brings me to asking: If & when you do get into a relationship what is of importance to you? What is the one thing you absolutely have to be in agreement with with your future mate? What will bring you to "call it off"?



1. Do you have deal breakers? 

2. Should you have deal breakers? 





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  1. Haha! That's hilarious. Hmm, one thing that I have to be in agreement with my husband is that Jesus is the only way to salvation. As for what would bring me to call it off . . . one thing is being unwilling to *wait* until the wedding night, or exhibiting pushiness in that direction. Another thing is finding out he isn't saved when I thought he was. I hope I would have the strength in either situation. In fact, I hope I would see signs of BOTH long before our possible engagement!

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    1. It is funny :) I like what you have to say :) Good points & I agree!

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  2. I love the Kid History videos - so funny!

    Let's see, what is of importance to me... Well, first off, he must be a true Christian in word and deed. Someone can say they are a Christian, but if it doesn't show in there life it would make me pause and reconsider.
    I would also want someone who is passionate about the Christian life/leading others to the Lord.
    May I also add that I'd love to marry someone who is fun-loving?? Not silly or immature, but someone who enjoys having fun and playing around.Young at heart, I guess. =)I'm not sure a terribly serious, no-playing-around kind of guy could put up with some of my antics. LOL! Oh some of the stories I could tell on myself....=D

    I think if you are in agreement as to what you can or can't agree on, then deal breakers would be good. For instance, what if you had strong convictions one way, and he another, and it was cause of disagreement to each of you? Would you be able to work through it, or would it cause division in your marriage? If it would, then that might be an indication that things should end, though hopefully you would know enough about the person BEFORE entering a courtship/engagement that this wouldn't be a problem.

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    1. Samantha, Ill be answering the note you sent me this evening! You are so patient!
      Your first sentence is the answer to everything, I so, so agree with you. Lip service is so deceitful, action & deeds are full proof. Anyone can proclaim Christ, the churches are filled with "christians" like this. Having their ears tickled & giving their lives to a system rather than to Christ! You are a wise, beautiful lady. Any guy that gets you will be beyond blessed.

      I totally agree with the second paragraph, you are spot on. Get the heavy stuff out of the way, before going deeper. Prove each other, ask a million questions, ask, ask, ask! Even go beyond & ask family & friends if you do not know the person well. This is the rest of your life, a monumental decision! KNOW each other well & this can be done in a short time with persistence.

      If I had a son, I would direct him toward you. :)

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    2. Another problem is people ( guys and girls) who are know a lot ABOUT the Bible but fail to put into practice the actual practical applications. I've seen people who could tell you all kinds of stuff about the history of the Bible, who was who, etc., and while I admire that ( and need to work myself on more of that kind of Bible knowledge), I don't see a practical application of the Bible in their lives, which to me would also cause me to not consider him as a possibility. He may be a true Christian, but if he doesn't live out the practical stuff and instead focuses on the history, what it meant to the people THEN ( instead of to him/us now), then that is almost as bad as being a "fake" Christian.

      And yes, I would ask TONS of questions! =) Might be a good idea to ask his siblings how easy he was to live with... JK. ;)

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  3. I haven't thought TO MUCH on the deal breakers,but I think a big one for me would be his beliefs on purity. He must believe on saving our first kiss for the wedding day and very limited/no physical contact during courtship time period.

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    1. Ah, good, Blythe. So important isnt it? I agree 100%. Good stuff! Spot on :)

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  4. So. I love Kid Snippets. And Kid History. The end.

    1. Do you have deal breakers?

    Yes. First of all, I will not marry a man who isn't a Christian. And not just your typical "church on Sundays" Christian. Or so-called Christian. ;) I desire a man after God's own heart--one who has a vision for our family, one who is utterly passionate in everything he does. I've been through this several times, so moving on. ;) Secondly he must be a homeschool graduate--not judging in any way, but I personally have nothing in common with non-homeschoolers. Homeschoolers can think. They are usually well versed on many different topics. They are typically conservative. And lastly, a fellow homeschooler will share my lifestyle/education ideals. ie, I am homeschooling my kids. Period.

    Also, purity, like the ladies above stated, is very, very, very important to me. My first kiss will be at the alter, for my husband and my husband only. After all, it is an expression of intimate desire (as Leslie Ludy once put it.) I'd ditto Samantha on those terms. :)

    And of course, after all those things are settled, personality comes in. But that's semi-private. ;)

    2. Should you have deal breakers?

    Absolutely! Like I always tell Nonna, if I wanted a boyfriend tomorrow I'd go out and get one. :P But I'm looking for, and most importantly, waiting for the perfect, set apart prince God has for me. I know he's out there. And I won't settle for second best. Why would I sacrifice everything I believe just to win a husband? Because there are plenty of men in the world. . .but very few "warrior poets".

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